Many times it can be a total blessing.
If you read my bio, you may have seen I’m a divorcee. Yes, 3 years ago I took the plunge and filed papers to divorce my spouse. I won’t get into the why or anything at this point, maybe never on my blog because it is the past.
it has been one of the best things i’ve done
As someone who got married in their mid-30’s with the non-belief in divorce, I found myself realizing that divorce isn’t not a bad thing. Living a lie is.
I’ll be the first to admit, divorce isn’t easy, nor should it be. I’m talking more of the emotional aspect of it. We invest our heart and emotions into a relationship for however long it may be and those emotions just can’t be erased.
it’s been 3 years so far for me
And as I send above it has been a total blessing for me and I’m sure for him.
Being totally at peace with my life is a wonderful thing!
Not walking on eggshells is beautiful!
Not worrying about what the other is up to and what dishonest things is going to happen next is most fabulous!
See, it’s been a blessing for me.
but i know it isn’t for everyone
or at least, they don’t think so at the moment.
I was speaking with my “man-friend” about divorce and how it hasn’t changed my thoughts bout love and marriage.
Which is a good thing for me. 😉
His divorce was horrid. He was left without anything. The judge awarded everything to her. The home and all the rental properties. Ya see, Delaware sucks in divorces and custody suits. They are very pro women.
But my man-friend managed to slowly come out of the bottom of the pits, as many feel they are, and move one.
So happy for him!
My divorce was amicable and was a good thing he didn’t want my home. He was moving out West anyway, which was also good for me.
We divided stuff and off our way we went.
it’s been a blessing for me
I have relearned to be the independent woman I once was. I am much stronger now that I ever was.
I may have a distaste for the military because I totally believe in “bro code” before family.
However, I know they all aren’t bad.
I have a peaceful home which I call my serenity.
I have a great job with great benefits.
I have good friends who are there for me and vice versa.
I have two beautiful furchildren that help me through every step I take in life, as I provide love, shelter, and so much more for them.
Life is better than I ever thought it could be.
I was scared in the beginning. Maybe even frightened.
But now I am at peace. I am happy with who I have become and for what I have been able to provide for myself.
see, divorce isn’t the end of the world
unless you look at it that way.
Eventually, you will see that things happen for a reason and the majority of the time for the better.
I’d love to hear from you. If you’ve been divorced or out of a long term relationship, share with us below. Who knows, one’s experiences may help another who is currently going through a divorce or even contemplating it.
The mission is to support one another. Be there for each other. Unify.
Peace and Love …. xo